What Is Your Family Blueprint?
Having a Strong Foundation
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As a parent, it is imperative to work as a synced team with your spouse and sit down and have a solid plan for how both of you will lead and raise your children for the betterment of society and God’s glory.
There are too many forces out in the world waiting and working day and night against almost all that you as a parent might stand for or might be against; in your family’s Blueprint will be mainly based on your belief system, your values, goals, and your principles as a couple.
Now, how do you create a solid blueprint for your family, a plan that reflects who you are as husband and wife? Well, let’s look at the definition of the word “BLUEPRINT.”
The Free Dictionary defines Blueprint as:
- “A step-by-step conception.”
- “Have a specific aim or purpose for something.”
- “A detailed scheme, method, or plan of action.”
- “To lay a plan for a specific thing.”
Now that you have a brief understanding of what a blueprint is, let’s dive into why you must have a clear Blueprint as a family and how to apply it in your everyday life.
Imagine the process of building a house, from starting with an idea, doing research, hiring the right people to bring about the vision you have for your house.
Now you will, of course, need a list of different people with different duties to fulfill, such as the developer, civil engineer, architect, contractors, master builder, roofers, and probably a few more people.
They will all play a specific role at a particular time all through the building of your house based on your vision. As a life and parent coach with a background of faith in God and Jesus Christ, I firmly believe that the second most important decision a person can make is who to marry and make life with.
Of course, the first would be choosing to bring God in all aspects of your life with Jesus as your Lord and Savior. Having that concept in mind, God plays the developer and the civil engineer’s role in building your house.
Making sure you and your spouse are ready, that you both have experienced his grace, mercy, and forgiveness, and that the foundation for your lives is right and ready to begin building a life together as one.
As your developer and civil engineer, God will guide, instruct, and lead you to marry the right person and to become the right person to be married to. So, when and where does all the design and planning take place?
That’s where the architect enters the picture. Before we continue with our home building analogy, you and your spouse must know and always remember that the most critical part of building your house is the foundation.
Your traditions, values, beliefs system, cultures, and principles will be the ingredient for your house’s foundation, whether good or bad, healthy or unhealthy.
What does this mean? You can have the most excellent Blueprint of how you want to design your house and build your home, with the latest of everything. Still, if your foundation is not right from the start, everything else you do afterward will be of no use, a waste of time, money, energy, and effort.
So, how do you move forward, creating the right blueprint for your family?
Step 1: Re-evaluate the foundation of :
- Your life as a husband.
- Your life as a wife.
- Your life together as parents.
- Your life together as a family.
See where you might need to pause and work on fixing or, based on what you have discovered, what you might need to start over as a couple. So, how would that play out? Go back to how you met, how things started, detect where the missing link is, and work together on connecting the dots.
Step 2: Work as a team to create the “perfect” Blueprint that fits your family dynamic. What are some of the things that ought to be on this Blueprint?
Our Family: Who we are and what we stand for:
- Family’s beliefs, principles, and values.
- Family’s rules.
- Family’s motto/how we operate and function.
- Family’s vision and goals.
Step 3: Vow to remain faithful, dedicated, and devoted to one another as husband and wife-parents. You are in the same pack, on the same team, and working toward the same purpose and vision. Work as teammates, not enemies or competition.
Step 4: Be aware of seasons of life where you will need to let go of the methods and ways that are no longer serving you, and be ready to adapt to new ways that are more effective, together with work to rearrange the Blueprint to make it fit the different stages in your life.
Your family’s Blueprint will change as you move throughout life. Although the Blueprint might experience different adjustments, what will never change is the foundation at the core of your family dynamic.
Of course, no rebuilding will need to occur if you have chosen the right foundation from the very start of your building and making life with each other. I took the time to explain all of this because:
- “…If a house is divided against itself, that house cannot stand…” Mark 3:25
- “…a wise man who built his house upon a rock. And the rain descended, and the floods came, and the winds blew, and it fell not: for it was founded upon a rock.” Matthew 7:24–27
If this year has taught us anything, it would be that life is very unpredictable and challenging. And when crises and disasters strike, not having a solid foundation for your life (a Blueprint ) and for how you will raise, lead, and guide your family, will cause you to fall under the weight of the circumstances, society’s unhealthy demands, and your own emotions and feelings.
And remember, there are too many forces out in the world working relentlessly against what you stand for as a parent, husband, or wife. Failing to have a detailed blueprint for your family will result in you watching the most important people in your life sitting as ducks for the flaming arrows that are coming from all directions at them, being completely defenseless.
I hope this was helpful and gave you some insights into how to move forward as a family.
Until next time,